Triangle Theory – WHY

This section will now ignore everyone else’s struggles with their own progress and development. Just now, in this quiet moment, we’re focussing on yours. We’re going to take a peep into your secret world of why. Why you cannot achieve the simple things you want. Why you feel hesitancy and fear in some situations. Why you are not able to put into practice what you know will benefit you. Why you self- sabotage …

Actually, I have a ridiculously easy answer to all of those whys:

You Have A Good Reason

You have an inner dialogue that is saying something like this:

“I have a compelling reason for not doing what I hope, expect and want to do.”

Somewhere deep inside, you have a reason not to do the things you want to do. That reason is so unconscious, so inherently part of yourself, that you don’t even know what it is. Or that it is even there at all.

This is the EMOTION part of the Triangle and the hardest part to wrangle with. Remember …

Emotion can override any KNOWELDGE we possess, any ACTION we intend to take. We have to be willing to wrangle with ourselves and the parts of ourselves that don’t want to be wrangled with. In fact, we have to get to know the very parts of ourselves that are trying their best not to be identified and addressed AT ALL.

The answer to ‘why’ is simple: you have a good reason. But the challenge of searching for and discovering the reason, can be complicated and frustrating. Searches like this often require sustained and thoughtful work, with a trained practitioner if required. But it is possible to undertake this work solo too, through deliberate practice and with a little sprinkling of trust and belief.

When you get to the next section of this programme it will deep-dive into the wonderful world of Parts Theory. Parts Theory describes a process by which anyone, like us, can start to understand ourSELVES and explore our inner world. The simple aim is for us to understand our own motivations and reasoning better. It is the best and most enlightening answer to ‘why’ I have ever come across. Simply magical.

(I used the word ‘magical’ deliberately. What was your reaction to it?)

Noticing and considering your actions and reactions is something you will use often in this programme. See if you can catch yourself reacting to something. Ask yourself why are you having that reaction.

Right now, let’s get on with taking some ACTION.